Hi curious friends,
Ever wondered what our play-party Curiosity is really like, from the perspective of a first-timer? ...See below for a really well-written, and accurate piece. All 2018 Curiosity dates (both workshops and parties) are now listed, and the next workshop for new folks is on Jan 7th.
So are the rest of our workshops, actually, all the way through until December. Enjoy!
If you're a part of Curiosity already, there's a Social on Jan 11th.
Otherwise, we don't really swing into gear until February, with Fun Little Sex Games on the 8th, and The Forest: Touch & Embodiment Ritual on the 15th.
The latest podcast episode features an in-depth chat with Seani Love, about the parallels between psychotherapy and well conducted kink practices. The links go way further than we'd imagined, and show just how much sex-work and kink sessions can be like, um... counseling? (Yes, we know that might sound a little odd).
Search for, and subscribe to, Curious Conversations About Sex on whatever app you use for podcasts.
Warmly, Rog and the CC team.
Review of Curiosity on Passionfruit: 'To Sex Party or not to Sex Party?'
Here's a snippet: "I’m a 30 year old professional woman, living in Melbourne, recently single, and I feel like my sex life has been a tad one dimensional. I keep falling into standard ‘sexual intercourse’ with guys. It feels based on ‘how quickly can I stick my thing in your thing’ and I want to know what else is available on the sexual menu.
So I went to a sex party. I did this on behalf of the Passionfruit Tribe (thank you Passionfruit!) in search for something a bit more sensual… (taking one for the team, so to speak).
’Curiosity’ is the name of the party. It is run by workshop organisers ‘Curious Creatures’ out of a venue in Brunswick. It describes itself as:
‘a very unusual exploration of sexuality, self-development, and liberation... an experiment in community and self-development that uses sexuality as a starting point.’
It sounds like an orgy with a personality and a degree. I’m nervous, but, as the label advises, curious…" Read More.
It's funny, how much we live in little bubbles, without having any idea just how isolated we are from the world. There's been lots of writing and podcasting lately about that in relation to Donald Trump, and how their election came as a surprise. (I, for one, was so confident about Hillary Clinton's success I was already celebrating the diversity they might bring...). We do the 'bubble' thing around a lot - especially around politics and opinion.
I got whacked out of my bubble again recently, when I bumped into someone from outside my normal world. They wound up accusing me of all sorts of things, because I believe that HIV is a real thing. I'll tell you about it below, but first, some recent (real) news about HIV.
I'm old enough that I had two people within my network die from HIV, back in the early 90's. Then, another two friends became HIV-positive, which we all assumed was a death-sentence... But the drugs and treatments just got better, and better, and they went from sick, to surviving, to surprisingly well. I've lost contact with one of those friends, but the other is alive and changing the world in the best of ways. They're a sex-positive pioneer.
And things have just gotten better and better; recent drugs are starting to get incredibly close to stopping transmissibility, and others are close to using the word 'cure' (at least, under certain lab circumstances). The World Health Organisation predicts that Australia will have achieved "effective eradication" by around 2030, with more challenging geo-political areas to follow five or ten years later. These numbers are based on the drugs currently completing their human-trials, and the likely time it will take for pricing to allow for a global trickle-down.
I am just amazed; these developments are going to have a profound impact on a significant portion of the human population.
I bumped into someone around six years ago, at a festival. We got into a conversation, where they revealed they thought HIV was a hoax.
Sometimes the tantra community - especially the older guard - are accused of having poor ethics and practice around safer-sex; at its worst, young adherents are told not to use condoms and other strategies in sex, but rather, to "surround yourself with pure, clear energy, give yourself fully to the moment, and the strength of our combined spirit will keep us pure" or something like that. I knew that to be the case, but it was still fucking weird coming up against a real life representative of that perspective.
I was kind of gobsmacked for a little while, but eventually I stated that I thought this person's views were not just wrong, but deeply dangerous, and that I didn't want them to leave the conversation thinking that my silence could be assumed to be support.
What else can you do? I wandered back into the festival and my usual bubble.
Fast forward to the present tense, when someone made some inquiries about coming along to Curiosity (the rather progressive sex-positive play-party I run once a month). They had a slightly unusual name, and on a hunch, I remembered the HIV-hoax conversation and thought it couldn't hurt to ask if it was them...
Me (as part of a broader, polite conversation in response to their original question):
"Also, unless your views on HIV as a hoax have changed, if I’m being honest, I don’t think this is the right event for you."
I'd expect a more professional un-emotive attitude from someone who claims to be a sexuality teacher.
There is a huge amount of scientific evidence (just as there in the vaccine scam industry) that these supposed modern diseases and supposed cures are figments of imagination for corrupt and arrogant corporate and political gangsters, hell bent on inventing new diseases and supposed cures to keep us all as sick as possible.
If you don't do some research on these important subjects (checkout youtube for starters), I'd suggest you stop advertising yourself as a sexuality teacher since in my opinion, your just another stupid ignoramus following the party line.
God gave you a brain. Use it.
Yes, people get sick. Yes, people die of illnesses. People generally die because our immune system is incapable of overcoming the causes of our illness.
A lot of modern illnesses are cause by drugs. I hope you're not one those who take recreational drugs, because if you do, you are placing yourself in danger of compromising your immune system.
So called 'HIV/AIDS' arrived from the gay community in San Francisco in the 70's who were taking sexually enhancing drugs for sexual recreation.
Wake up and smell the roses buddy.
When I saw you [at a public daytime event] you looked pretty fucked up to me.
At this point, the temptation is to scream.
In part, I want to scream at the personal attack, and how it seems to be such an apparently integral part of being a sexuality / gender / relationships / kink advocate. Fortunately, in this case, it's pretty hard to take it too seriously, because it's so crude.
In part, I want to scream on behalf of the attitude in the background of this person's thinking - that if you've got HIV, it's because you're bad and / or not looking after yourself. This line of thinking is disgusting to me.
And in part, I want to scream about people's inability to intelligently apply skepticism. There's actually some well-intentioned stuff in this person's response; the criticisms about big-pharma are not too far from the truth of some different situations - just not this one.
The thing with this, as a conspiracy theory, is that there must be tens of thousands of science-minded people actively engaged in HIV research or treatment, and to think that it's possible to get each and every one of them to act in collusion and rally behind a lie is beyond what humans are capable of. It's hard to get a small number of people on the same team to keep a secret, let alone tens of thousands of very different people.
This thinking (or lack thereof) is what makes me want to scream; it's in the way of our progress on so many fronts, and it keeps us from coming out of our insular little thought bubbles and exposing ourselves to new and different information.
Unfortunately, screaming doesn't help. Screaming at humans almost never helps anything. So instead...
"I’m so glad I asked; you would have very much not enjoyed the culture of Curiosity, and the way safer-sex protocols are described and handled. This outcome is better for us both.
Since your response [to me] is a rather personal attack, please don’t get back to me again. I’ll remove you from our mailing list so you’re not bothered by our spam.
Them (this is just one line from an otherwise mostly polite response):
"Talking of personal attacks, for you to ban me from your meetings because of my personal very well researched and scientifically backed knowledge of HIV/AIDS is pure unprofessional ignorant cultish nonsense."
I've laughed and I've cried about this exchange, just in terms of what it says about the human condition (which is normally something I'm pretty positive about).
In the meanwhile, I hope my friend of 25 years - the one with HIV - doesn't have to read this, and instead continues doing what they do in the world unencumbered. I hope the *cliche warning, but it's true* kids in South Africa that get raped (because it's believed their virginity can cure HIV) get let off the hook as soon as possible, as this next wave of medicines trickle down.
I hope we all get out of our comfortable little bubbles, and I hope that Google comes up with a magic 'truth' algorithm (even though I know that's not possible). This might sound weird, but I think the old-guard tantra person I was chatting to has good intentions - I just really wish they would align with good science.
In the meanwhile, I will get back to sharing my take on sex-positivity, which for the moment will continue to be informed by the 'hellish cult of mainstream science'.
Go well, Rog.
The September Curiosity play-space is going to be during the day (4-8pm), since the recent experiment was so successful. This is only for folks who have already done the full Curiosity workshop, the next one of which isn't until Sunday the 8th of October.
Also we've relaunched our Curiosity website and made it sparkly! It's now specially tailored to walking new folk through the Curiosity experience. Recommend it to your friends who are curious but unsure, and check it out yourself at http://curiosity.curiouscreatures.biz/.
Fun Little Sex Games (for all couples) is on September 23.
Kink 101 (for all couples, and male/female identified pairings singles) is on September 24.
Kink 102 (for all couples, and mixed gender pairings singles) is on October 7. It's preferred that you've done Kink 101 but if you have a good grounding in consent (which we'll review) and know you enjoy kink, come along!
Upcoming Sydney workshops - tell your friends!
We'll be in Sydney for the first time ever this September. Exciting stuff, please let your friends and contacts know. We're filling up fast, so encourage them to book in soon.
Fun Little Sex Games (for all couples) is on September 16.
The Forest Ritual (for male/female identified pairings) is on September 16.
Kink 101 (for all couples, and mixed gender pairings singles) is on September 17.
Podcast: Curious Conversations About Sex
In Ep 17: I notice my orgasm potential dropping off over time; what's sex like for aging people? Rog and Dr Linda Kirkman explores sexuality questions especially relevant to those of us who are aging (or planning to do so in the future).
In Ep 18: Is sex a slippery slope of addiction? Does the pursuit of sex inevitably lead to...? We've been taught sexuality is a wild beast waiting to consume us. Rog interviews two people: one interested in football, and the other interested in sex. Find out the amusing results ...
In Ep 19: I have Vaginismus - any advice welcome Anne Hunter, Niyati Evers, and Rog have a special conversation from the personal perspective of three people with direct experience of this condition.
In Ep 20: What do you wish you were told at the start of your sex journey? Dr Linda Kirkman and Rog have a frank discussion about what it was like growing up and navigating sex.
In Ep 21: How do you train a submissive? Aerie, Beejay and Rog discuss consent (for a change!), safety, techniques, and the psychology of the way different people learn.
In Ep 22: Polyamory: Do you believe in tight or loose agreements? ...Strict rules, or relationship anarchy? Dossie Easton, Anne Hunter and Rog get deep into the subtleties of polyamory (and open relationships and non-monogamy in general) and share their combined wisdom of 70+ years of personal experience.
In Ep 23: What's your number one sex move? Cath Carter, Maureen Matthews and Rog reveal their number one sex moves!
In Ep 24: How do I learn to be a dominant (BDSM/kink)? Aerie, Beejay and Rog talk honestly from their wealth of experience about what makes a good dominant, and what power-play is all about.
In Ep 25: Consent is not sexy Dossie Easton, Anne Hunter and Rog discuss consent as a human right. Saying it's sexy confuses the issue.
In Ep 26: The Consent Cards: A primer in great sex and consent! (Part 1 of 3) Aerie and Rog go through the juicy questions on the Curious Creatures consent card, in detail. And they share their personal stories on lessons learned the hard way.
Hi curious one,
My mind was blown this week - again! - by how extraordinarily amazing 'active receiving' can be. I'll describe it for you in full detail, below.
As best as I recall, I learned this practice from the Sexological Bodywork crew (who I warmly recommend you check out, especially for a therapeutic and / or professional approach to sex).
You need a partner for this exercise. Set aside some quality time, and get a warm room - I like to use an electric blanket under the person that's receiving, also, because being cold doesn't support your enjoyment. Working off a massage table is perfect; a bed is okay, and being straight on the floor is good for people with high mobility. Perhaps put some ambient, spacious tunes on in the background, without too many vocals.
Have your discussions about hard limits and safer sex strategies, and perhaps line up some toys and sensation experiences. At a minimum, decant some coconut oil into a bowl.
Then, start a timer; 30 minutes is your minimum, 75 minutes is probably the upper range of what's good for most folks.
The person giving the touch waits nearby. In the absence of instructions, or if the receiver wants to self-pleasure, then the giver simply holds space (by staying near, and respectfully observing).
The receiver constantly scans their body for what they'd like to experience, and asks for it. In a more professional setting - the way this material is presented by SexBod - the giver only touches using their gloved hands. In a more personal, intimate environment, the two of you might agree that other forms of touch and experience are on the menu. However, crucially, the receiver needs to focus on themselves for the entire time, and resist the temptation to project their sexuality or arousal onto the giver. It's not meant to be a 'relationship' process, but rather, a 'self-development' one; the giver is essentially a very elaborate robot, listening carefully to instructions and acting on them (according to whatever boundaries were set initially).
The receiver is encouraged to stay with the experiences in their body, rather than disappear off into fantasy. While there's nothing wrong with that under different circumstances, part of the point of this activity is to learn more about one's own body and pleasure - and this is not possible if one is too far off in one's thoughts and fantasies.
At some stage, it can be great to have fifteen minutes of time principally for genital touch. This doesn't need to be sexual or to go in any particular direction, but it helps to reinforce your relationship with your genitals. The specific touch you might ask for could be anything from "cup my genitals with your hands, in stillness", through to "fist me". Trust your body.
It's nice if the robot - I mean, the 'giver' - can let the receiver know when their time is nearly up, so as to allow for cooling down. Then, depending on the nature of the experience, a few minutes of lying still and integrating the experience is often welcome... So is a hug, sometimes.
As with everything, debrief; the simple questions of "What did you like?", "What would you do differently / more of / less of, next time?", and "What do you like about this play-partner?" are a great starting point.
And then, swap!
Enjoy this practice, friends. I am consistently surprised at just how much pleasure the above activity can bring, but perhaps more importantly... It feels like it's a very solid way to progress one's sexual development. It feels like the lessons and experiences are really landing, rather than simply being fun and hedonistic one-off happenings. And anything that continues to develop the integration of your words with you pleasure is going to make for better sex and relationships.
(The above types of play feature in Fun Little Sex Games - as just a very gentle introduction in the beginner classes, then as described above in the intermediate / advanced classes).
'The Forest' continues to grow...
The Forest is such a lovely little workshop. It's built around a ritual where one half of the group stands still (as 'trees') with blindfolds on, and the other half of the group moves amongst them, giving experiences. The workshop includes some very fun extras and, naturally, lots of boundary-setting work.
It's surprisingly rich learning territory, as well as delightful fun, a lot of the time. So much so, that we now have versions for mixed-gender pairings, and male/female pairings. Perhaps even more exciting is the introduction of 'Deep Forest', only for people that have already done the standard workshop. In the Deep Forest, where all the trees have demonstrated their ability to set and respect boundaries, the experience is richer and longer...
The July Curiosity play-space is going to be during the day (4pm-8pm), as an experiment. This is only for folks who have already done the full Curiosity workshop, the next one of which isn't until Sunday the 6th of August.
Podcast: Curious Conversations About Sex.
In 'My partner and I used to have sex...?', Anne Hunter, Niyati Evers and Rog dive into the question that almost all long-term relationships will ask at some stage.
In 'BDSM: Isn't it just more sexualised violence against women?', Aerie, Beejay and Rog get into some really deeply juicy territory relating to consent (and non-consent), gender-play, communication skills, and slut-shaming.
Hope you're enjoying your journey of self-discovery, Rog.
P.S. I'd like to welcome Sair into the role of the Adminatrix, and also take this opportunity to thank Aerie for a stunning three years of domming the shit out of the CC task list, and generally steering a tight admin ship - your knowledge of the sector and the community, coupled with your admin skills, has been golden. Thank you!
Hi Curious ones,
Tantra is profound. But from the outside, it can be hard to know where and how to get started. That's where this exercise comes in; it teaches the skills of getting into your body, reading your partner's feedback, one-way touch (which is crucial to extending pleasure!), and the joy of playing in the subtleties of touch. (In fact, this exercise is a very powerful solution to what we might call the problem of 'over enthusiastic' touch).
It's called 'The Stills'. You'll need a partner of any gender, and it can be easily adapted for people with different levels of mobility.
Person One lies down on their back, with a pillow under their head, and is not allowed to move any body parts except their eyes (and any internal muscles, like breathing, but strictly no talking). Person Two plays with them, up until Person One flinches or moves - it's normally totally obvious to both parties when a flinch has occurred. When the receiver flinches (or moves in any other way), it's time to swap - the giver gets down on their back and is now the receiver. (Note that the person receiving touch can control the play by ‘accidentally’ flinching, thereby prompting a swap; consent is built into the structure).
It's not a hard one to get the hang of. As the giver, you can attempt to make the other person move by using erotic touch, and perhaps see just how far you can push that edge. Or you can see how long they can hold out on being tickled. Or if you're playing with someone that likes pain... Well, I'll just leave that to your imagination.
When I came up with this game, I mostly had hedonistic fun intentions in mind. But I soon realised how much training value there is in it, as well as being a way to bring some humour and lightness into play (which is such a turn-on!). So, enjoy being still.
It's one of about a dozen games in Fun Little Sex Games.
In last week’s podcast Curious Conversations About Sex, I tackled the question of “Why are men such dicks?” with Lorraine Pentelow and Charlotte Sway. The topic the week before was “What’s it Like Being a Public Figure in the World of Sexuality?”, with Cyndi Darnell and Barbara Carrellas.
They’re damn juicy conversations. You can listen online, but it’s oh so much better to work out how to subscribe (via Apple or other devices).
Fun Little Sex Games (couples) is on April 22, and Kink 101 (couples and mixed gender singles) on April 23.
Playing With Your Power is on April 29th, and The Forest on April 30th.
Dear curious ones,
I feel like this conversation I had about how ritual goes with sex and bdsm, with Barbara Carrellas and Cyndi Darnell, gives a good insight into what we regard as good sex. The way we use ritual in sex highlights a way that all those ideas about consent and communication can come together in a way that is smooth and supportive of good sex, rather than something that gets in the way.
And, perhaps needless to say, there are some cracker examples of our sex rituals.
Subscribe to Curious Conversations About Sex via the apple store, or stitcher, or wherever you normally get your podcast goodness from.
Kink 102 is coming up on March 25th, and the intermediate version of Fun Little Sex Games on March 26th (for those of you that have done the intro version, and are ready to drop in deeper).
At Curiosity, this weekend - sorry, no workshop for new people, so this is only relevant to folks that have already done the workshop - I'm adding in what should be a rather nice little feature. For those of you that want to participate, at nominated times throughout the night I'm going to pair you up with someone else, then give you a list of potential activities (that range from the entertaining and platonic, through to the very adventurous).
And also, early notice is that Celebrating Sexuality is coming up again on Nov 17 - 20th.
Hope you're enjoying being you, Rog.
Dear Curious Ones,
I hope you're well!
Episode four of Curious Conversations About Sex (the podcast) is out. In it, we tackle the question of whether touch can be taught. Some have it, some don't - what's with that? Can the situation be saved? If so, exactly how does one go about that?
You might also be interested in how to introduce more interesting sex into a relationship, Maureen and Cath and I discussing ournumber one sex moves, or a very body-positive response toconcerns about protruding inner labia.
Fun Little Sex Games is on this coming Tuesday; in this 'hetero' version, folks that identify as women will be paired with folks that identify as men. Places for women are still available, and more places for men might become available.
Kink 101 (open to couples of any orientation as well as 'hetero' singles) is on Saturday 25th.
Last week at Curiosity, some epic members of the community ran a game show, where teams were pitted against each other in some pretty hilarious sexually-themed challenges. Winners received some very special rewards, and all told there were about 20 people involved (and that number again in stitches as observers).
Later in the night, in another scene, a person sitting at a desk had to read an ironically chosen book and try to keep a straight face while someone (that they had chosen) stimulated them from under the table with a magic wand. The final scene, where the last reader climaxed while the whole room danced in front of them to Blondie's "Heart of Glass", is not the sort of thing that could ever be planned. The timing was extraordinary.
These scenes - and a hundred other like them - are subtle, nuanced, interesting, enjoyable, and entertaining. But I think what I love most about the Curiosity community is how carefully discussed and planned they are; people sometimes put weeks of effort in beforehand, making sure that everyone is comfortable and knows what's going on, and that informed consent has been appropriately attended to. What results is a thriving example of the wildness that happens when the basics (and safety) are attended to. Safety equals freedom.
The next workshop for new people is Sunday the 26th, currently 20 out of 30 tickets sold. Read all about Curiosity here.
Friends: The podcast has arrived! I am so excited to be broadcasting the sex-positive message out a little wider, and just delighted to be able to chat to such talented people about important topics.
'Curious Conversations About Sex' debuts today, available wherever you get your podcasts from, or from the Curious Creatures website.
There are three episodes ready for you:
And perhaps you're tempted to submit a question of your own...?
There are still a few spots left for this Saturday's rather delicious'The Forest' ritual. Then Fun Little Sex Games comes around on the 21st, Kink 101 on the 25th, and the next Curiosity workshop(for new folks) is on the 26th - on a random Sunday (not associated with a play-party) especially for those of you that can't do the usual Saturday afternoon thing.
I hope you're well, and also hope to have the pleasure of your company as some friends and I meander through Curious Conversations About Sex!
Forget about me. There's so many other great workshops coming up soon. :)
Here are some hand-picked beauties...
Barbara Carrellas / The Urban Tantra Experience (Sydney, April)
The book 'Urban Tantra', by Barbara Carellas, was a minor miracle for me. Actually, that's a lie; it was a major part of my journey into the world of sex positivity and my own sexuality.
I still recall the joy at finding a perspective on sex that was inclusive of all different types of people and bodies, and that was respectful of the tradition of tantra without being gendered. And that was honest about the lovely clunky reality of sex and what it is to be human.
It is probably my 'go to' book recommendation, when I'm asked about good books.
I did the Urban Tantra professional training a year ago, and I was delighted to discover that Barbara is also an extremely good facilitator. Plus, I felt the content of the workshop did justice to the joy I got from the book.
These two workshops are pitched at two different levels, and I warmly recommend you check them out, if sexuality, relationships, self-development, and / or gender are areas of interest for you.
Arven / Presence, Play & Polarity (Brunswick, Feb 4)
Arven runs a really great workshop. Some material includes some masculine / feminine concepts, so it's slightly different to my own style. He's got a great background in counselling, and brings together kink and tantric concepts nicely.
This workshop, in his words: "'Presence, Play & Polarity': experiential immersion. Way richer than an introductory workshop, less full-on than an intensive. Begins with practical somatic work, then flows across a range of fascinating, fun, and potentially beautifully expansive Contemporary Tantra and Authentic Expression practices."
Frank and Sheila / various workshops (Brunswick, January)
If you've been to my Kink 101 (or similar), you might have heard me mention that I love to mostly just teach the fundamentals, then refer folks to specialists for further training. Frank and Sheila qualify as specialists!
I've done their interrogation workshop, and found them to have a lot of great knowledge.
Overpowering and rough play:
Hold me tight:
Festival of Really Good Sex (Sydney, Jan 26-29)
Featuring yours truly.
Sexological Bodywork Certificate (April to October)
I love this crew, I love how they present their material, and I love what their work does for individuals and the world. I am not overstating my position.If you're thinking about some form of sex therapy, sex work, or other sex-related specialisation, I strong suggest checking this out.
And then, y'know, there's a bunch of my stuff. See the calendar page. I can't tell you how much I've been loving teaching it, especially lately. Thanks for you interest and support; I am a very lucky camper to have you as my client.
Hello curious ones,
Not having sex right this second? That doesn't mean you're not sex-positive, or that you're not doing it right. Read on...
Also! 2017 workshop and Curiosity dates have been released! See below.
Asexuality is a part of sexuality, as stillness is a part of movement.
I think of "sex positivity" as one's attitude towards sex (and other people's consensual sex), as opposed to a daily (or weekly, monthly, yearly) requirement. The pressure or expectation to be having a lot - any? - sex, and the sense that lots of sex is part of being an enlightened creature, can suddenly start to feel very sex negative. Ironically, one gets inversely slut-shamed for not having enough sex.
It happens to women, to men, and it most definitely happens to non-binary / queer / trans communities. There are a million reasons to not be having sex, but that doesn't mean you're sex-negative.
Some of the most sex-positive people I can think of haven't had anything that looks like traditional sex for a long time.
One of the things that happens is that our culture is a bizarre mix of sex-celebratory as well as sex-negative; anyone that's having more sex than you is a slut (or sleazy, predatory, dangerous, sex-obsessed), and anyone having less sex than you is frigid (or damaged, or unevolved, or unattractive, etc.). Or at least, that's the way we're trained to look at the world around us.
When one is going through a period of less sex than the culturally defined correct amount, it can be a very isolated and downwardly-spiraling situation; especially if one would like to be a bit more active than one is.
Sometimes when we cross over, and get back in the saddle as they say, without realising it we start looking down on those that are not getting as much action. All of our unprocessed shame at ourselves when we were in that period (as well as our relief from being out of it, and panic at the thought of going back into it) comes out. We start talking about ourselves like we are better than, or doing a better job, or more evolved...
Fuck that. And fuck no-one, if that's right for you. "Sex positivity" is the attitude you have to your body, your sexuality, and other people's... It's got nothing to do with how much sex you're having, or if it looks remotely like the mainstream definition of sex.
Let's instead just assume that you're perfect as you are. (And, I like to think, "sex-positive"). :)
2017 Workshop dates are now up, on the calendar.
Kink 101 - version for all couples, and singles (heterosexual pairings) is coming up on January 8th. Fun Little Sex Games - version for all couples is on Jan 10th. Then Rog is off to Sydney to run a few things at the Festival of Really Good Sex later in January.
Curiosity dates are also now mostly published. The play-space is on the second Saturday of the month, for the whole year. The workshop for new people jumps around a bit, as we experiment with ones on the same day as the play-space, and ones on different days. A paid assistant role for the setup and pack-down now exists; please see the relevant, detailed post in the secret Curiosity group.
For those of you that couldn't be there, the end of year Curiosity dinner and performances were pretty beautiful. What an amazing range of talents, and what a gorgeous bunch of people. I think you can go right ahead and pencil that in again for 9th December, 2017!
And once again, the silly season is approaching. Why not give an experience rather than a product? Perhaps a Curious Creatures Gift Certificate would hit the spot?
Hoping you're well in whatever you're doing,
Rog and the CC Crew.
Hi curious friends,
There was a wonderful article written by a regular Curiosity person this week. I found it a really touching and often heart-warming description of a couple's journey through health challenges, relationship changes, and ultimately some adventurous and successful outcomes. Sometimes (by which I mean most of the time), the off-the-shelf relationship model doesn't fit us, and we have to create something new. I like the integrity and vulnerability with which the involved people fronted up to the challenge.
I have some sadness about the headline that was used (especially by further publishers down the line). However, I was delighted to see the communications come through from so many other people, in similar situations, searching for options and alternatives, courageously playing at their edges. I am stoked that Curiosity (and other workshops) fill a role here.
On the topic of Curiosity... we're running an experiment with coloured wrist bands tonight as a way of indicating your level of interest in play with others. It's going to be very interesting, and if you've done Curiosity before you can jump on the secret group to find more information - but the most important thing is that it's optional, so don't stress if you're coming along and haven't been following the discussion. Also for Curiosity folks... There will be an end-of-year dinner thing prior to the December party - again, check the string for details.
There's still scope for another person to join the next Kinky Learning Circle... is it you?
And the silly season is approaching. If you've got one of those people in your lives for whom you want to get a gift, but want to give an experience rather than a product? ...Perhaps a Curious Creatures Gift Certificate would hit the spot?
Hope you're getting your money's worth out of being human, Rog.
Rog is the driving force behind Curious Creatures. He was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. He now identifies as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious.