sexuality articles
Welcome to sexuality articles written by and/or about sexuality educators, Curious Creatures - and all that the curious get up to on their sex-positive adventures!
Or go straight to Podcasts or TV about us.
He's wonderful but he wants an open relationship
by Maureen Matthews
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', July 2020.
How to navigate this situation? Shoutout to our Opening Up to Opening Up workshop (in-person or online).
'You can design your own relationship': life inside an open marriage
by Cindy Lever
Published by The Age, August 2019.
People open up and talk about their polyamorous relationships, including their experiences with our play-space, Curiosity. And Roger Butler (Curious Creatures) comments on open relating as a societal trend, and our workshop, Opening Up to Opening Up (in-person or online).
Here's what I've learned about Desperate Single Males
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
First published by The Good Men Project, July 2019.
'Creepy guys' are so much more than they appear to be ... Read about Sair's empowering experiences at our Forest: Touch & Embodiment Ritual workshop.
Undoing Shame with the Two-Minute Game
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
First published by Adult Match Maker, June 2019.
We all have shame around our sexuality. So what to do? It can be complicated – and expensive! – trying to work out what approach is right for you. Or you could just play the Two-Minute Game, for free. (If you want to learn the game in a workshop experience, check out Fun Little Sex Games, in-person or online.)
How can I stop feeling lonely and miserable?
by Maureen Matthews
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', June 2019.
So many people feel lonely in our modern society - what can we do about it? Shoutout to our Curiously Social Creatures workshop (the online version is Online Social).
Monogamy vs Polyamory in Thailand
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
First published here, December 2018.
70 people in Thailand explore a large-group conflict-resolution around a contentious topic: Monogamy vs Polyamory (inspired by Process Oriented Psychology). Watching it unfold is inspiring and heartwarming.
Is it possible to reclaim passion and desire?
by Maureen Matthews
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', September, 2018.
When the spark dies in your relationship's sexlife, how do you revive it? Shoutout to our Fun Little Sex Games workshop (in-person or online).
Sexuality workshops and play spaces lubricated my gender fluidity
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
Published by Archer Magazine, May 2018.
"The first time I was asked which pronoun I use for myself was at a sexuality workshop run by Curious Creatures. Being asked this at the beginning of the workshop gave it the unexpected benefit of empowering me on my gender journey. I was later empowered through play parties and experiencing the rich diversity within them."
A Counter-intuitive but Plausible Solution to the Problem of Violence Against Women
by Roger Butler (principal facilitator at Curious Creatures)
First published here, February 2018. Also on The Good Men Project.
"I would like to outline what our current attempts at solutions consist of, highlight why I believe they’re failing, and then propose something counter-intuitive as a solution to ‘the problem with men’. I’ll share with you what I’ve discovered through road-testing my ideas with thousands of men – including some remarkable successes."
Fun Little Sex Game 'Switch'
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
First published on Adult Match Maker, February 2018, under title 'Good Consent leads to Great Sex if you play this Fun Little Game'.
"The following is an example of the ‘gamification’ of consent, drawn from my experience of running hundreds of sexuality workshops for thousands of people …and, of course, from my private life – I love this structure!" (If you want to learn the game in a workshop experience, check out Fun Little Sex Games, in-person or online.)
What I Learned about myself at my First Sex Party
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
Published by MamaMia, December 2017.
"I can’t over-emphasize how much learning and practising my internal Yes and No has changed and is still transforming my life. I feel like I’ve plugged back into my personal power. I protect me. I choose what’s right for me. I honour what’s right for others." Sair is writing about our adventurous sex party, Curiosity.
I went to a Sex Party in Melbourne, this is what happened ...
by '30 year old professional woman, living in Melbourne, recently single' attending on behalf of the Passionfruit Tribe.
Published by Passionfruit, November 2017.
A very accurate and well-written review (with hilarious images) about a woman's first experience at our play-space, Curiosity, Curious Creature's most adventurous offering.
My Husband of 17 years Survived Cancer, then told me he wanted to Open our Relationship
by Jill Baker* (*name has been changed)
Published by The Age newspaper, November 2016.
Read a very touching story about two people's experiences at the Curiosity play-party (and with polyamory).
Kink 101: more pleasure, confidence, connection [interview]
by Caitlyn Cook
Published on Caitlyn Cook's blog (tantra-inspired facilitator, writer, and coach), May 2016.
"Like lots of people, I used to think kink was a bit weird. I thought kink was just for folks with bizarre sexual fantasies... Not me. Obviously. But, as it turns out, kink is actually not what I thought it is. It's way awesomer." Caitlyn is interviewing our head facilitator, Rog about our popular Kink 101 workshop (now called Adventurous Touch and Intimacy).
How a Wife and Mother found herself in a Kinky Sex Class
by Sienna Moore
Published by MamaMia, May 2016.
"I cross my legs and try to get comfortable… well, as comfortable as is possible when you are about to do something totally new and a little bit taboo, with a group of complete strangers. Looking around, I check out the 25-or-so others. They seem… well, normal I suppose. But that makes sense; I’m pretty normal, yet I too have signed up for an introductory class on kinky play." Sienna is writing about our popular Kink 101 workshop (now called Adventurous Touch and Intimacy).
10 Things I Wish someone had told me about Porn
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
Published by The Good Men Project, August 2012.
Rog wrote this article for a mother wanting to educate her sons on pornography, and it exploded all over the internet, achieving over 1 million unique views in the first 2 weeks! This led to Rog talking about it on Huffington Post's TV Channel.
New Year, New Sexual Boundaries: Raunchy Trends you need to try in 2018
by Lollie Barr (mentions Curious Creatures)
Published by Whimn, January 2018.
Our play-party, Curiosity, is mentioned as a sex trend you might want to try: "Curious Creatures run sex-events that are built around impeccable consent and boundaries, rather than free-for-alls."
13 Questions that Cover all the Bases
by Maureen Matthews (mentions Roger and Curious Creatures)
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', May 2016.
Roger Butler contributes advice on how to create structured and respectful conversations around consent.
An Arousing Fantasy cannot always be acted out
by Maureen Matthews (mentions Roger and Curious Creatures)
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', March 2017.
Exploring your desires by treating them as learning opportunities.
Partner Swapping and Privacy
by Maureen Matthews (mentions Curious Creatures)
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', July 2017.
"Sorting things out beforehand frees you to enjoy the encounter."
Or go straight to Podcasts or TV about us.
He's wonderful but he wants an open relationship
by Maureen Matthews
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', July 2020.
How to navigate this situation? Shoutout to our Opening Up to Opening Up workshop (in-person or online).
'You can design your own relationship': life inside an open marriage
by Cindy Lever
Published by The Age, August 2019.
People open up and talk about their polyamorous relationships, including their experiences with our play-space, Curiosity. And Roger Butler (Curious Creatures) comments on open relating as a societal trend, and our workshop, Opening Up to Opening Up (in-person or online).
Here's what I've learned about Desperate Single Males
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
First published by The Good Men Project, July 2019.
'Creepy guys' are so much more than they appear to be ... Read about Sair's empowering experiences at our Forest: Touch & Embodiment Ritual workshop.
Undoing Shame with the Two-Minute Game
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
First published by Adult Match Maker, June 2019.
We all have shame around our sexuality. So what to do? It can be complicated – and expensive! – trying to work out what approach is right for you. Or you could just play the Two-Minute Game, for free. (If you want to learn the game in a workshop experience, check out Fun Little Sex Games, in-person or online.)
How can I stop feeling lonely and miserable?
by Maureen Matthews
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', June 2019.
So many people feel lonely in our modern society - what can we do about it? Shoutout to our Curiously Social Creatures workshop (the online version is Online Social).
Monogamy vs Polyamory in Thailand
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
First published here, December 2018.
70 people in Thailand explore a large-group conflict-resolution around a contentious topic: Monogamy vs Polyamory (inspired by Process Oriented Psychology). Watching it unfold is inspiring and heartwarming.
Is it possible to reclaim passion and desire?
by Maureen Matthews
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', September, 2018.
When the spark dies in your relationship's sexlife, how do you revive it? Shoutout to our Fun Little Sex Games workshop (in-person or online).
Sexuality workshops and play spaces lubricated my gender fluidity
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
Published by Archer Magazine, May 2018.
"The first time I was asked which pronoun I use for myself was at a sexuality workshop run by Curious Creatures. Being asked this at the beginning of the workshop gave it the unexpected benefit of empowering me on my gender journey. I was later empowered through play parties and experiencing the rich diversity within them."
A Counter-intuitive but Plausible Solution to the Problem of Violence Against Women
by Roger Butler (principal facilitator at Curious Creatures)
First published here, February 2018. Also on The Good Men Project.
"I would like to outline what our current attempts at solutions consist of, highlight why I believe they’re failing, and then propose something counter-intuitive as a solution to ‘the problem with men’. I’ll share with you what I’ve discovered through road-testing my ideas with thousands of men – including some remarkable successes."
Fun Little Sex Game 'Switch'
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
First published on Adult Match Maker, February 2018, under title 'Good Consent leads to Great Sex if you play this Fun Little Game'.
"The following is an example of the ‘gamification’ of consent, drawn from my experience of running hundreds of sexuality workshops for thousands of people …and, of course, from my private life – I love this structure!" (If you want to learn the game in a workshop experience, check out Fun Little Sex Games, in-person or online.)
What I Learned about myself at my First Sex Party
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
Published by MamaMia, December 2017.
"I can’t over-emphasize how much learning and practising my internal Yes and No has changed and is still transforming my life. I feel like I’ve plugged back into my personal power. I protect me. I choose what’s right for me. I honour what’s right for others." Sair is writing about our adventurous sex party, Curiosity.
I went to a Sex Party in Melbourne, this is what happened ...
by '30 year old professional woman, living in Melbourne, recently single' attending on behalf of the Passionfruit Tribe.
Published by Passionfruit, November 2017.
A very accurate and well-written review (with hilarious images) about a woman's first experience at our play-space, Curiosity, Curious Creature's most adventurous offering.
My Husband of 17 years Survived Cancer, then told me he wanted to Open our Relationship
by Jill Baker* (*name has been changed)
Published by The Age newspaper, November 2016.
Read a very touching story about two people's experiences at the Curiosity play-party (and with polyamory).
Kink 101: more pleasure, confidence, connection [interview]
by Caitlyn Cook
Published on Caitlyn Cook's blog (tantra-inspired facilitator, writer, and coach), May 2016.
"Like lots of people, I used to think kink was a bit weird. I thought kink was just for folks with bizarre sexual fantasies... Not me. Obviously. But, as it turns out, kink is actually not what I thought it is. It's way awesomer." Caitlyn is interviewing our head facilitator, Rog about our popular Kink 101 workshop (now called Adventurous Touch and Intimacy).
How a Wife and Mother found herself in a Kinky Sex Class
by Sienna Moore
Published by MamaMia, May 2016.
"I cross my legs and try to get comfortable… well, as comfortable as is possible when you are about to do something totally new and a little bit taboo, with a group of complete strangers. Looking around, I check out the 25-or-so others. They seem… well, normal I suppose. But that makes sense; I’m pretty normal, yet I too have signed up for an introductory class on kinky play." Sienna is writing about our popular Kink 101 workshop (now called Adventurous Touch and Intimacy).
10 Things I Wish someone had told me about Porn
by Roger Butler (Curious Creatures)
Published by The Good Men Project, August 2012.
Rog wrote this article for a mother wanting to educate her sons on pornography, and it exploded all over the internet, achieving over 1 million unique views in the first 2 weeks! This led to Rog talking about it on Huffington Post's TV Channel.
New Year, New Sexual Boundaries: Raunchy Trends you need to try in 2018
by Lollie Barr (mentions Curious Creatures)
Published by Whimn, January 2018.
Our play-party, Curiosity, is mentioned as a sex trend you might want to try: "Curious Creatures run sex-events that are built around impeccable consent and boundaries, rather than free-for-alls."
13 Questions that Cover all the Bases
by Maureen Matthews (mentions Roger and Curious Creatures)
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', May 2016.
Roger Butler contributes advice on how to create structured and respectful conversations around consent.
An Arousing Fantasy cannot always be acted out
by Maureen Matthews (mentions Roger and Curious Creatures)
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', March 2017.
Exploring your desires by treating them as learning opportunities.
Partner Swapping and Privacy
by Maureen Matthews (mentions Curious Creatures)
Published by The Sydney Morning Herald in column 'About Last Night', July 2017.
"Sorting things out beforehand frees you to enjoy the encounter."
podcasts
Polyamory, working on your stuff, and learning from relationships
Appeared on Joy FM radio's triple bi-pass podcast.
Rog and Tess, from Curious Creatures, are interviewed about all sorts of relationship things including – but not limited to – polyamory.
Ellie Gets Curious with a Creature called Rog
Episode 36 on The Aussie Swingers podcast.
"...Discusses how these workshops (by Curious Creatures) can benefit Lifestyle relationships through the opening of communication, establishment of boundaries, expressing your interests and how to make play safer, both emotionally and physically. They chat about the benefit of common etiquette and ponder whether they could start the Sexual Olympic movement."
Appeared on Joy FM radio's triple bi-pass podcast.
Rog and Tess, from Curious Creatures, are interviewed about all sorts of relationship things including – but not limited to – polyamory.
Ellie Gets Curious with a Creature called Rog
Episode 36 on The Aussie Swingers podcast.
"...Discusses how these workshops (by Curious Creatures) can benefit Lifestyle relationships through the opening of communication, establishment of boundaries, expressing your interests and how to make play safer, both emotionally and physically. They chat about the benefit of common etiquette and ponder whether they could start the Sexual Olympic movement."
tv
Luke Warm Sex
Aired on the ABC in 2016, featuring many of Australia's foremost sex educators (including Rog from Curious Creatures).
Luke Warm Sex is a self-proclaimed crash course in great sex. Watch Roger Butler from Curious Creatures coaching Luke McGregor on how to do an Undressing Ritual followed by the Sensory Awakening Ritual.
Aired on the ABC in 2016, featuring many of Australia's foremost sex educators (including Rog from Curious Creatures).
Luke Warm Sex is a self-proclaimed crash course in great sex. Watch Roger Butler from Curious Creatures coaching Luke McGregor on how to do an Undressing Ritual followed by the Sensory Awakening Ritual.
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