Transforming accusations from something we fear or have difficulty responding to, to something that can trigger personal growth and positive change!
This online workshop (formerly called ‘Joy of Accusations) is about working with the accusations that inevitably flow from relationship conflicts. It provides a robust and repeatable structure that has the potential to convert the escalatory or overwhelming power of conflicts into something more useful and positive for the relationship and the individuals in it. We will be seeing conflict as an opportunity for healthy self-development and change; we will be turning lead into gold!
This workshop is pitched at professionals, as well as individuals that bring a desire to do better, and learn from, their own conflicts. It has been used as professional development by counsellors, therapists, psychologists, mediators, and conflict resolution specialists – essentially, anyone working with people in conflict or disagreement.
At the core of this workshop is a structured exercise that can be repeatedly used in a variety of contexts, and that works as well when working with online clients as it does in person.
Most of our enduring relationships - with lovers, friends, family members, or coworkers - will eventually involve conflict. Overt or covert accusations will emerge, often triggering a defensive response. Conflicts and tensions in the outside world often deliver us similar opportunities to work with things that trigger us.
Our culture, education and upbringing seldom give us the skills to work positively with accusations. This is a great loss. Both the accusations that are directed at us, and the ones that we direct at others (even if they are never spoken aloud) provide an opportunity for learning and personal growth.
So many of our desires - becoming a better person, doing more of what we want to do in the world, having more meaningful relationships - can be achieved through approaching accusations differently.
The workshop is a mix of theory, discussion and a thorough inner-work exercise (which you discuss with others in a small group environment, to the level that’s right for you). It is likely you will leave this exercise with a new perspective on an existing relationship conflict, as well as having a tool for working on your own or other people’s conflicts in the future.
This workshop is experiential, in that it involves you looking into an existing conflict you have, as a way to learn the material. While it will likely be very useful for couples in conflict and who attend together (since you’ll come away with a shared perspective and technique you can use), there is no opportunity for live relationship work in this workshop.
Facilitator: Roger Butler
Turning Relationship Lead into Gold (online) is presented by Roger Butler, who’s been the principal facilitator and driving force behind Curious Creatures for nine years. Their training is in sexuality, facilitation, and counselling, and they’re easily one of Australia’s most prolific sexuality facilitators. Find out more about Rog and the team.
This is one of ~30 workshops offered by Curious Creatures (Australia’s biggest provider in the field). If you’re interested in this event you may want to check out Power, Rank & Privilege: Playing with the cards you have and the in-person version of Turning Relationship Lead into Gold: working with conflict.
See all in-person, online, and pre-recorded workshops.
This workshop is pitched at professionals, as well as individuals that bring a desire to do better, and learn from, their own conflicts. It has been used as professional development by counsellors, therapists, psychologists, mediators, and conflict resolution specialists – essentially, anyone working with people in conflict or disagreement.
At the core of this workshop is a structured exercise that can be repeatedly used in a variety of contexts, and that works as well when working with online clients as it does in person.
Most of our enduring relationships - with lovers, friends, family members, or coworkers - will eventually involve conflict. Overt or covert accusations will emerge, often triggering a defensive response. Conflicts and tensions in the outside world often deliver us similar opportunities to work with things that trigger us.
Our culture, education and upbringing seldom give us the skills to work positively with accusations. This is a great loss. Both the accusations that are directed at us, and the ones that we direct at others (even if they are never spoken aloud) provide an opportunity for learning and personal growth.
So many of our desires - becoming a better person, doing more of what we want to do in the world, having more meaningful relationships - can be achieved through approaching accusations differently.
The workshop is a mix of theory, discussion and a thorough inner-work exercise (which you discuss with others in a small group environment, to the level that’s right for you). It is likely you will leave this exercise with a new perspective on an existing relationship conflict, as well as having a tool for working on your own or other people’s conflicts in the future.
This workshop is experiential, in that it involves you looking into an existing conflict you have, as a way to learn the material. While it will likely be very useful for couples in conflict and who attend together (since you’ll come away with a shared perspective and technique you can use), there is no opportunity for live relationship work in this workshop.
Facilitator: Roger Butler
Turning Relationship Lead into Gold (online) is presented by Roger Butler, who’s been the principal facilitator and driving force behind Curious Creatures for nine years. Their training is in sexuality, facilitation, and counselling, and they’re easily one of Australia’s most prolific sexuality facilitators. Find out more about Rog and the team.
This is one of ~30 workshops offered by Curious Creatures (Australia’s biggest provider in the field). If you’re interested in this event you may want to check out Power, Rank & Privilege: Playing with the cards you have and the in-person version of Turning Relationship Lead into Gold: working with conflict.
See all in-person, online, and pre-recorded workshops.
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Tickets
Our 'rounds' of tickets are really simple: they're all the same, except that some of them are cheaper, to encourage you to book in early (because it makes a huge difference to us in terms of planning). Round One tickets are similar to 'early bird' tickets, and make up almost half of all ticket sales. Round Two tickets, slightly more expensive than Round One, also make up almost half of all ticket sales. Round Three tickets are generally only there once we're close to being sold out, but can squeeze in a late-comer or two. If you're feeling generous, you can buy whatever ticket feels right, but in general, folks buy the cheapest ones available. For this workshop, tickets range in price from $55 to $90, per person. Dates and Times Click the following to purchase tickets: (Times in Australian Eastern Standard Time (AEST) ie Melbourne, which is UTC +11.) ONLINE: |
Technology
For most people, a low level of technical knowledge is plenty for this workshop. PLATFORM BEING USED: Zoom (with registration) CAMERAS: Video is required for this workshop. HEADPHONES & MICROPHONES: An external / headset microphone is preferred, but not essential. TWO PEOPLE PER LAPTOP?: No - it’s important for this workshop that you are on separate devices, in separate rooms. ROOM: You must be in a room that’s reasonably free of interruptions and noise. TIMING AND BREAKS: We recognise that Zoom has its advantages, but can be tiring. We include more breaks, accordingly. LATE POLICY: Workshops will be locked to new entrants a few minutes after the advertised start time, otherwise the workshop becomes confusing for you and other participants. Sign up to our newsletter to be notified when new sessions are released (put your location as 'online'). |
WHO THIS IS FOR AND NOT FOR...
INTENSITY: Two to four chillies (out of four). Different people experience this workshop very differently, depending on how new the work is to them, and what conflicts are up for them at the time, etc.
WHO FOR: People who want to learn from situations, including conflicts. People that are interested in 'inner work' or self-development. People working with conflict, such as therapists, counsellors, psychologists, mediators, conflict resolution specialists and parents.
WHO NOT FOR: Those looking for live couples counselling. (We don’t have the scope for live counselling in this workshop - please see our list of recommended therapists on our Resources page.
WHAT EXERCISES? One main inner-work exercise, which will first be demonstrated, that you’ll then do to the level that’s right for you, and then discuss in small groups to the level that’s right for you.
WILL THERE BE PARTNER WORK: This workshop entails mostly inner-work, with some group sharing and sharing in pairs.
CAN YOU WORK EXCLUSIVELY WITH AN EXISTING PARTNER / FRIEND? Yes (for the sharing part of the exercise).
COMMITMENT: You can do the main exercise to whatever level is right for you.
RATIO OF EXPERIENTIAL TO THEORETICAL: About 50/50 per cent.
WHO FOR: People who want to learn from situations, including conflicts. People that are interested in 'inner work' or self-development. People working with conflict, such as therapists, counsellors, psychologists, mediators, conflict resolution specialists and parents.
WHO NOT FOR: Those looking for live couples counselling. (We don’t have the scope for live counselling in this workshop - please see our list of recommended therapists on our Resources page.
WHAT EXERCISES? One main inner-work exercise, which will first be demonstrated, that you’ll then do to the level that’s right for you, and then discuss in small groups to the level that’s right for you.
WILL THERE BE PARTNER WORK: This workshop entails mostly inner-work, with some group sharing and sharing in pairs.
CAN YOU WORK EXCLUSIVELY WITH AN EXISTING PARTNER / FRIEND? Yes (for the sharing part of the exercise).
COMMITMENT: You can do the main exercise to whatever level is right for you.
RATIO OF EXPERIENTIAL TO THEORETICAL: About 50/50 per cent.
"One of the most valuable workshops I’ve done to date."
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"Refreshing and honest."
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"Well paced, lots of useful information, really helpful to have Rog go through an example first. Absolutely feel I got value for money. I've already recommended it to others. :-) "
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"A helpful self awareness tool."
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"Really interesting, loved the group of people there."
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"What an eye-opener the practical exercise is, on turning accusations around and looking at them from all angles. I realised that there's usually at least a seed of truth in criticism (sometimes much more than a seed!), and that this truth guides me to greater empowerment. I also realised that people are generally unskilled at giving feedback ... and if I hold that against them, I miss out on a rich source of personal growth pointers. Conversely I now get that the more 'mixed' or 'emotionally charged' my feedback is, the less likely it is that someone else will/can listen to it ... and that there are ways I can make it easier for them to pickup (which benefits us both)."
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"Refreshing and honest."
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"Well paced, lots of useful information, really helpful to have Rog go through an example first. Absolutely feel I got value for money. I've already recommended it to others. :-) "
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"A helpful self awareness tool."
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"Really interesting, loved the group of people there."
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"What an eye-opener the practical exercise is, on turning accusations around and looking at them from all angles. I realised that there's usually at least a seed of truth in criticism (sometimes much more than a seed!), and that this truth guides me to greater empowerment. I also realised that people are generally unskilled at giving feedback ... and if I hold that against them, I miss out on a rich source of personal growth pointers. Conversely I now get that the more 'mixed' or 'emotionally charged' my feedback is, the less likely it is that someone else will/can listen to it ... and that there are ways I can make it easier for them to pickup (which benefits us both)."